If Good Men Do Nothing
You won’t make a difference because you think you have arrived at some level of perfection or because you think you know all the answers, but simply because you care and because you are willing to offer your strength for the good of those around you. That’s something, isn’t it?
And something is certainly better than nothing.
Why Authentic Masculinity is Anything but Toxic
The answer to “toxic masculinity” is not less masculinity but more masculinity…authentic masculinity.
What Little Boys Dream Of
Men have an incredible ability to sacrifice and suffer for those they love. Of course, women do as well, but for a moment I’d like to take the spotlight and direct it to the heroic potential and actions of men. Their strength, when used to protect, is an incredible gift to the world. We must never forget or belittle this.
Safe sex: why consent alone will never satisfy
Despite the strong cultural pull in the direction of “greater sexual choice,” it’s increasingly clear that this generation is not actually any happier with how things are going. Maybe there is more to “safe sex” or even “good sex” than merely two consenting adults.
Every Day a Bride: a message of God's love for the church
The glory of the bride on her wedding day is the glory of being chosen and treasured. But, not every day is the wedding day. This is a reminder that no matter what you face today, nothing can rob you of your identity in Christ.
The Struggle with Feminine Beauty
Why did God give this unique beauty to the female gender? Women were designed to be such strong creatures, and yet also have the ability to gently nurture and bring life to those around us. This is the nature of all beauty. When unexploited, by self or by others, true beauty becomes a place of joy and rest.
You’re Not Just A Mom! Just ask Sisera
The enemy is lying to mothers all over the planet whispering,” You are just a Mom”. This couldn’t be further from the truth. You aren’t just a mom, you are a threat to the kingdom of darkness.
Thoughts on Loss, Miscarriage, and Remembering Redemption
We each have our own stories of loss. As long as there is sin in this world, brokenness will persist. But we must make space in our theology for a Redeemer. He will have the final say. Every mess surrendered into His hands will not stay broken.
The Hand that Rocks the Cradle - the significance of the modern mother
If the mothers of the past could step into our homes, I imagine that they would come sit close enough to us that their knees would touch ours. Maybe they would lean forward, look us in the eye and say, "No, dear. You are not failing. You are facing a challenge that we never did. You are not particularly weak. You are a pioneer woman in a world that has not set you up for success."
Surviving an Affair: Staying Whole When You are Broken
As I’ve walked with other women through healing from affairs, I’ve been able to identify several lies that the enemy uses to try to take us down. These are common to anyone who has been sexually violated, but they cannot compete with God’s truth. If you have been wounded by someone else’s sexual sin, let me encourage you that you can trust God’s word over your feelings, fears, or what anyone else has told you. If you recognize any of these lies, know that you are not alone!
Real Men and Emotions
What happens if a sensitive soul also lives in a world that belittles the expression of emotion? What if a boy doesn't find a safe place to come back to? What if his tears are constantly belittled? What if his defenses get stuck?
What if he stops feeling? Look around. Look within. You are most likely experiencing the fall-out.
How to Prepare Young Boys to Deal with Porn
For so long the religious answer to porn was simply, "Don't" and "Stop." Even those who have no affiliation with faith are discovering via research and experience the damaging affects of pornography on relationships, one’s sexual health, and psychological well-being. But guess what? Knowing the side affects hasn’t stopped the industry.
It's not enough. Porn is built on damaging presumptions; by identifying these lies we can lay a foundation of understanding for our children and put the issue into the context of their life.