Be loved
Your value extends beyond your physical appearance. It goes beyond your ability to turn someone’s head or keep the crowd’s attention with your beauty. You are allowed to desire to be known at a deeper level than just skin on skin. You are allowed to want to be feel safe in friendships and in a relationship.
To Make Pain Count
When one person breaks through and finds healing, it releases a contagion of hope.
God knows how to transform even the cruelest of scenarios into a place of redemption and restored life. Not just for you, but for multitudes more. And suddenly, all that pain counts for something.
Being a Mother. Being A Lover.
The question is, how can a woman navigate the significantly different roles of mother and lover?
How can she recognize BOTH as good and healthy, but not let those roles interchange? Because our husbands certainly do not need us to mother them, and our children desperately need to grow up seeing the personhood of woman, distinct from her sexuality.
Why You Can't Just Get Over It (and why intimacy demands fidelity)
You took the risk of trusting and disclosing the core of who you are. You were naked and exposed before them. To be rejected or discarded at that point will certainly hurt. And your brain tells you that you never want to feel that way again.
When Sex Doesn't Feel Sexy
When we were newlyweds, I often used to wonder, “How much sex should a married couple be having?”
“What is average? What is normal?” The answer I’ve come to recognize is simply, “More.”
But in saying that, if you are like many others, you may feel like sex just doesn’t feel sexy anymore. Here are a 5 common misconceptions and struggles that may be interfering with your SEX LIFE.
Dude, You're Not Going To Die
There is often an expectation that all sexual needs and desires will be completely met once you are married to “the one”. Sorry to break it to you, bro, but, it’s just not true.
We, as husbands, will have to deny ourselves in order to serve our wives. This will apply to many aspects of the relationship. Guaranteed, it will affect the sexual dimension.
How To Be Happy Without Sex
“What? You’ve never had sex? Like... ever?”
“Nope. Never.”
“How do you even live!? How can you be so happy?”
A conversation I once had with a girl whose jaw hit the floor when I told her my story. 32, single, not sexually active and H A P P Y.
When The Pain Hits Home
That summer changed my life; it changed my outlook and sent me on a journey. Years passed. I searched for answers. I didn't just want logic to break the confusion in my head. I needed to know that we were not all destined to be slaves of our sexual desires.
Dear Church: On the Topic of Abortion - It's Not So Simple.
We can’t go after the issue of abortion and not be willing to confront the engine that is spinning the gears on the whole conveyor belt. If we’re going to actually help women, we have to go way further back and way deeper down.
And what you find there, Church, is going to inconvenience you far more than you may realize. If we actually care about human dignity and see value in all life, we’re going to have to prove it.
The Vulnerability of Being a Woman
You may be tempted to resist your very identity in order to not face such a vulnerable existence. If you have been hurt or disappointed, you may wish that you were tougher and that you could perpetually "shake it off", but it never works out quite the way we imagined it would. On paper our Canadian women are doing great. We have increasing access to scholarships and job promotions, sports achievement, and involvement in projects and causes. Yet, we are among the mass population of women who are self-medicating.
But it does not have to stay this way.
Shutting the door: What to do when you've gone further than you wanted to
I want to tell you that you’ve only gone too far if you don’t turn around. You may say, “You have no idea what I have done!”
I don’t have to know what you’ve done, because I know the mercy of God.